Dating Someone With Depression: Be Careful
Don’t use too many “zingers”
There’s nothing wrong with a bit of humor, but a lot of “zingers” are over the top. It turns your date off, and there’s nothing worse than getting hit with a not-so-clever quip. Be yourself—let your humor be your humor. And if you’re OK with puking in your date’s mouth, you may want to avoid making a remark that starts with “I’m gonna puke on you.”
Keep in mind that you are meeting someone new who may or may not be just a little off-putting. You don’t want them to think you’re just mean or a jerk, so it’s probably better if your first impression is a good one. If you fall into “zinging” and just strike out on the first date—I mean, if you start dating as a joke, that’s just nasty. All jokes aside, be nice and courteous. Don’t be creepy, and don’t use a one-liner that makes you sound like a serial killer.
Keep your personal information to yourself
Sharing your personal information—your height, your weight, your birth date, your favorite movie—isn’t necessary unless you’re asking someone for their real information. Don’t make assumptions about a person until you know their name, where they’re from, what they do for a living, and what they’re looking for.
Use a different email address
If you’re friends with your date on Facebook or have an online dating account, you should have your own email address. If you’re meeting someone through mutual friends, your email addresses should be handled by them. It’s better to have your own unique email address instead of using the email address of your friend or a dating site.
Don’t play Cupid
Making others’ lives miserable is pretty cheesy, and having a friend or a friend of a friend pretend to set you up just for one thing is tacky. Not to mention that if they do end up hooking you up, you’ll know it and you can cut them off. It’s best to just keep your friends to yourself, unless you can have a good laugh about it after the fact.
Use apps and instant messaging
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