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In addition to sharing a few of our favorite tricks for doing just that, we’ve also added in some expert advice for easing the awkwardness of dating and navigating a slew of dating apps. Will He Like Me? You May Not Know Until You Ask If you’ve spent any time at all on the dating scene, you may have noticed that men are generally really bad at telling you if a girl is nice to them. Sure, they’ll act like they’ve seen plenty of her before, and of course she’ll have to explain where they’ve met before, but ultimately they’ve made a blanket declaration that the girl is “nice” or “very nice” or “amazing.” And then you find out she’s not so nice, and you don’t really know why. (My husband is a great example of this. He’s told me on countless occasions that I’m “really nice,” even though the first time we met we went on a date and he did nothing to tell me he liked me. We’re still together, but he’s 100% terrible at telling me if he does or not.) One option is to ask him himself if he likes you. Luckily, he’s very up front about the fact that he can only be honest with you when you ask. However, men may not know that they’re hurting you by not coming clean with you right away. I’ve had some very dramatic, terrible experiences with guys who’ve told me they love me only to be having a much different conversation later on. The sad truth is, it’s much more common for men to lie about the fact that they like you than it is for them to actually tell you. I’m not sure what the best way to deal with this is. The most common advice I’ve seen for dating guys is that you should just be “really nice” to them, regardless of what they tell you. I’ve also seen “just give them time” advice, because you know how people like to use time as an excuse for not doing things. While I wouldn’t necessarily get mad at people who are being casual with you, I wouldn’t get caught up in it, either. The frustrating thing is, you have no idea if he genuinely likes you unless he tells you. There’s no way to just tell. The Cheesy Trick: Ask Him to Share His Favorite Movie With You Okay, this is kind of a lame trick, but it’s the first one that comes up on Google
Dating is about making yourself more attractive to other people. In a way, the most interesting thing about dating is that it’s a process that makes you better at dating. You start thinking about yourself more, you start taking better care of your body, and you start learning about your likes and desires and your beliefs about what kind of people you want to be with. All of that helps prepare you for the next date, which helps you get better at the next date, and so on. It’s like personal development. And it’s hard. It’s very, very hard. Two basic problems are at the heart of all dating disasters: timing and miscommunication. You’re just waiting around and hoping that someone will eventually show up. This is when people with anxiety say they’re “good on their own.” They’re like the Groundhog Day people—they’ve pretty much known who they are for their whole lives and they don’t have to figure out how to be attractive or charming or entertaining or whatever. All they have to do is show up and look nice. They don’t have to make any effort or do anything. You think, “If someone just shows up, it’s going to happen,” and then you inevitably spend your first few dates with this guy or woman wondering why you’re not getting any sexual action. Or, you wonder why a sexual chemistry you felt with that person seems to be running its course. It becomes like Groundhog Day. You try to put yourself out there, and all you seem to do is get rejected time and time again. I don’t want to say that you have to go out every single night, but if you’re not willing to spend time in front of a mirror on a weekly basis, you’re going to have trouble. You have to spend time being present to yourself and developing your beauty. By that, I don’t mean you should spend your whole Saturday in front of the mirror, waxing and tweezing. But I do mean that you should spend time getting ready in the morning. You shouldn’t have to wear the same thing every night. After all, your job isn’t just to look good; it’s to feel good. You have to wear clothes that make you feel nice and confident. I mean that you have to do your hair, fix your skin, and put your best face forward. You have to make a conscious effort to be present to the person you’re with. It’s not about just going out there and


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